Planning my wedding has sprinkled fertilizer on every seed of body insecurity I have.
Make your social media scrolling work for you.
The list goes on.
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Since platforms like Pinterest, Instagram, and TikTok provide a ton of (free!)
wedding ideas and inspiration, you might not want to stay completely off of them.
Sutton recommends being more aggressive when it comes to curating your feed in the months before your wedding.
Limit your time on social media, unfollow people, block people in your FYP, she says.
Set clear boundaries with family and friends.
Unlike on social media, you (mostly) cant block people who trigger you IRL.
Definitely the biggest obstacle is fighting back, challenging that notion, especially amongst family members.
That expectation of how you should look for a life stage or milestone continues after marriage too.
No matter who makes the comment, its important to set a defined, firm boundary.
Be prepared for body stuff to come up when youre buying your wedding outfit.
Street sizing, a.k.a.
Our bodies have changed since the pandemic.
A lot of people have no idea what body size they are, Lopez says.
Navigating that with myself and with my clients is a challenge.
That can be a real mindfuck, Sutton says.
It can really mess with your head to have that experience of the sizes being different.
To help avoid a dressing room spiral, start by measuring yourself in advance.
Alternatively, you might order outfits online, which is what helped Sutton through the process.
And know it can get worse when its time to alter them.
I thought she was saying that I wont look good unless I lose 10 pounds.
And then I realized that its a professional reality for her, Shuman said.
Still, if youre easily triggered, reframing a comment like this can be hard to do.
As with everything else, this experience isnt limited to just women or people wearing dresses.
(By the way, if youre a guy struggling with this,weve got you.)
To help avoid what Shuman experienced, look for a size-neutral tailor, if possible, Lopez says.
This is my body, and I want it [the outfit] to fit around my current body.
Keep it all in perspective.
Keep your people close, especially the ones who hype you up and advocate for you.
If youre feeling anxious about the photos, ask your partner or your best friend (or photographer!)
to help you figure out some poses, makeup, and/or accessories that make you feel confident as hell.
This should help you zoom out and identify what your intentions are for your wedding experience, Sutton says.
Is it most important to remember what size you were?
Or the day being about you and your partner and people witnessing the love you share?
