to deliver waves of pleasure.
I scream in safe-sex ecstasy, pulling him toward me for the big finale.
But each woman peppers her fantasies with unique details a la Captain Condom.
It’s not surprising: Women tend to have similar feelings aboutsex and in life.
So, we’re pulling back the sheets!
“For most people, fantasies should stay just that.
“You feel self-conscious.”
Get ready to have the sex of your dreams!
I’m pushed up against one of the pillars having sex.
If we move too much, we’ll be seen, but that’s the thrill!
Little do all the commuters know what’s going on above!
I dare you to catch me,'” Bader says.
Weareasy-access clothes(panties optional!)
and let those public acts prime you for a private one at home.
The second you get inside: skirt up, pants down.
“My ex-boyfriend had a strong, lean body and Gumby-likeflexibility.
But you do need to be careful about how you bring it up.
Suggest that you and your partner try something “new” such as [fill in the blank].
But, for obvious reasons, leave out where you got the idea!
I leave feeling pleasantly taken advantage of.
“Bridget, 32, London
__IN YOUR HEAD__Lesbian fantasies do not necessarily a lesbian make.
IN YOUR BEDIf you want to voice a bit about your fantasy, don’t be shy.
The cliche is usually true; men think about two women, too.
“Start there.”
“I’m in a dungeon, where a masked man is bossing me around.
He says things like, ‘Take off your shirt’ before tying me to a cross or bench.
He whips and spanks me a bit, but it never getstoo violent.
I completely surrender, loving that I don’t have to make an effort.
He’s totally in control.
Are you always the vacation planner and decision maker?
“When you’re tied up, you aren’t doing anything wrong,” Maltz says.
Consider talking to your partner ahead of time about what you might want him to say or do.
“It starts with me giving one guyoralsex while the other has sex with me.
Then it moves to double penetration, one below me, one entering from above.
They’re having their way with me, and I’m totally enjoying it.
IN YOUR BEDIn real life, threesomes usually add up to triple-strength jealousy, not triple-X fun.
Yup, even if it means having a little help.
“I’m traveling alone and meet a man at the hotel bar.
He comes up to my room, and we start kissing and undressing each other.
“Linda, 40, Minneapolis
IN YOUR HEADYou’re free!
Stranger fantasies satisfy the desire to unabashedly express yourself and get your needs met, no strings attached.
IN YOUR BED"Meeting” your mate in a hotel bar to role-play may feel contrived.
You want him to have fun, too.
“Anything that surprises him will excite you both,” Herbenick says.
“I’m a call girl who charges an insane amount of money.
“Rose, 41, Edgewater, New Jersey
IN YOUR HEADYou’ve seen Pretty Woman too many times.
You’re so beautiful and good in bed that people pay to have sex with you!
There’s also a feeling of sexual freedom that goes hand in silk-gloved hand with this fantasy.
You aren’t mom/wife/employee.
“You’re pure sex!”
Don’t slip under the covers.
Don’t immediately start kissing.
Lay out your goods on the bed and let him admire them.
What stretch marks?!Bulges?
You have none!Your man’s too busy thinking about ravishing you to focus on anything else.
Give yourself time to transition if needed.
Take a shower and run your hands slowly over your breasts, butt and stomach as you suds up.
This allows you toreconnect with your curvesand your physical sexuality before you unleash it.
It’s a lot of fun but also scary, which is part of the turn-on.
It’s a free-for-all!
“You’ve got at least two men, two women, strangers, different ages.”
And all those people make it public.
__IN YOUR BED__Like so many fantasies, the reality of anorgyrarely lives up to its imagined equivalent.
You don’t have to approach them seriously at first.
It’s OK to joke; feeling a little uncomfortable is part of the experience.
“A stranger jumps out of an alley and grabs me.
I’m physically resisting, but I also really want it.
He rips off all my clothes, and it feels good.
Unlike withreal rape, there’s no threat of actual violence.
The aggression is in his attraction to you physically, so it’s not really physically threatening.
you’ve got the option to add into the mix elements ofroughness, however, and animal attraction.
& Mrs. Smith, lessLaw & Order SVU.
“I’m a casting agent and he’s a young actor reading for me.
I can see he is turned-on but feels shy, so I place his hands on me.
It’s clear he’s never been with a woman who knows what she wants.
We have sex on the casting couch and I love ‘directing’ him.
“Jane, 40, New York City
IN YOUR HEADForget the cougar stigma for a minute.
Young, hard bodies are hot and can, um, get harder almost on demand.
But there’s also appeal in their innocenceand your control.
“You have the power of sexual knowledge,” Maltz says.
It goes back to them getting off on your getting off.
So hop in the driver’s seat and tell your mate to buckle up.
Have him close his eyes and rely entirely on your instructions.
Move his hands where you want them and tell him what feels good.
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