And even though thecoronavirus pandemichas changedhow we date, people are still looking for these types of bonds.
(Hopefully as safely as possible.)
Enter: The situationship.
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While traditional relationship terms likesignificant otherorspouseoften describe more permanent commitments, a situationship is primarily determined by immediate circumstances.
For instance, a summer fling is contingent on summertime starting and ending.
you’re free to already see how thisgets tricky, right?
Its not all bad, though.
Situationships, however, allow you to (hopefully) explore possibilities without overemphasizing a particular destination.
The talkingthe part where were transparent about our overall hopesis where situationships can turn left quickly.
So [situationships] can be fine if both partners are okay with it.
And so that’s where the problem comes about.
Thats also where a situationship sometimes ends.
First of all, youre allowed to call it a breakup (or a shake-up).
Butlabelsdont make relationships real.
The people in them do.
So call it a breakup if it feels like one and process accordingly.
Circumstances that youve grown accustomed to are changing, and youre allowed to have thoughts and feelings about it.
On that note…
2.
Remember that youre entitled to every emotion that youre feeling.
If youre reading this, Im guessing that youve had some feelings arise about your situationship breakup.
Acknowledge theemotions, Roberts says.
There is no one singular way to feel.
Lean on support from friends and family (and observe how you talk to them about it).
This might seem like a no-brainer, but its easier said than done.
To be clear: You absolutely do.
Not only should you lean on your friends and family, but observehowyoure talking about what happened.
If you cant talk about your feelings, write them out.
AsSELF previously reported, writing down your negative thoughts can help you investigate your feelings a bit more.
Know that these feelings might last a while.
Another effective way to work throughsetbacksromantic or otherwiseinvolves remembering other times youve survived difficult experiences.
When it feels right, reflect on the lessons.
Who do I want to be after this?
Maybe it’s theexact same person.
